Day 81 - Im Doing the Best i can - part two

 

This a continuation of my previous blog http://fidelisspies.blogspot.com/2012/08/day-79-i-doing-best-i-can.html

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I am doing the best I can in what I do

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to limit myself and to justify my limitations by saying I did the best I can

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to find ways for me to be more effective with everything I do

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to when doing a project and people judging it as not good enough to then say that i did the best U can even though i know I could have done better

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use ''i did the best i can - as an excuse to justify my actions

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to want to defend myself and my actions by saying i did the best i can - so that i do not have to take self responsibility

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to take self responsibility for my actions - and to instead use any way I can to justify what I did

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if I do not find ways to become more effective in what I do then I will always be the same and there will be no change in my effectiveness

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not want to change and become more effective and take on more responsibility  - because i fear i will not be able to handle it and screw it up

I commit myself to let go of the believe that i am doing the best i can - and to instead find ways to become more effective in what I do

I commit myself to stop limiting myself by justifying my actions by saying im doing the best i can

I commit myself to do a project to the best of my ability - and when someone says that it is not good enough and i can do better - then stop the backchat and to look at how i can improve myself to be more effective within this project

I commit myself to stop defending myself and my actions and thus abdicating my responsibility by saying i could no do better

I commit myself to stop allowing fear to dictate my actions and who i am and to become self directive

I commit myself to become self responsible for everything I do and to stop the fear that I will not be able to handle it and screw it up - instead I realize that's its an excuse

Day 80 - Expectations And Heated Arguments

 

Today I presented an idea I had - i was expecting a good response from the idea, but instead i got a negative response which made me angry and resulted in an argument

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to have an expectation of a good response on the idea that i presented

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to become angry when I got an opposite response to what I was expecting

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to get consumed by this anger and to become directed by it and started to argue about the point

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to out of my expectation to defend my idea to force a good response from the other person

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to create expectations in my life based on my ideas and  beliefs - not realizing that the mind creates expectations and that the physical does not work out the same as I expect it to

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to keep on defending and justifying my idea and try to CONvince the other person that they are wrong an that i am right

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to in this point of wanting to be right and defensive to try and make myself as knowing better that the other person and make them to be inferior to my knowledge of the point as to invalidate them so that i can win

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that i am being directed by emotions and that my words and actions in this possessive state is not my own

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to defend my idea because I fear it being a stupid idea and being ridiculed - and to keep this fear at bay I go through all this trouble above - instead of realizing that i am not being self directed if I allow fear to  direct me

I commit myself to stop all expectations 

I commit myself to stop being directed by the anger - but to stop it instead so that I can be self directed

I commit myself to not become angry when something happens that i did not consider - and when i get angry I stop the anger before speaking another word - because then it is not me

I commit myself to stop trying to defend my ideas, but to rather explain the idea more effectively  and if it is not practical or doable to then simply let it go

I commit myself to stop trying to convince others that i am right - and to stop trying and invalidate the other person and bring them down and make them inferior just so that I can be right  - if I am absolutely right then there will be no need to convince the other person

I commit myself to stop the fear of having a stupid idea and being ridiculed - but to instead see it as an opportunity  to expand myself and become more effective when i get feedback from others  - without feedback i will not be able to become more effective in what i do

Day 79 - I'm Doing the best I can

 

Since being on the farm we have worked on many projects - and within those projects you leant a great deal about yourself - you can see how much work has been put into a certain project and depending on how effective the project is when its done reflects on the person.

Its really awesome to do something physically yourself - like fencing or building a nursery and laying down a concrete floor - its stays there for a very long time. You can look back and say to yourself '' I did that''. And with every project I did I always looked to become more effective so that when i do this particular project again - i will do it better. And with lots of practice, research and assistance i found better and more effective ways to do things.

Every time When i was finished with project I told myself i did the best i can, but i did it better the next time - so then ''doing the best I can'' got better, which indicated that 'my best' back then was not in fact my best. At the moment with I my knowledge and ability that i had it was the best i could do - but i also had the ability to do better and i proofed it later

The point im making here is that when someone say that they are doing the best they can it is usually related to a point they did and did not do good enough. So they get defensive and try to justify their limitations by saying:'' I DOING THE BEST I CAN!!!'' . I had a few projects where i did not in fact do the best I can where I believed I did,  and then someone would bring the point out and after being pissed of and throwing tantrums to try defend and justify my work i then did realize I was slacking. 

I remember a time when we started closing a hole in our dam wall so that we can have a dam with lots of water  - we had to take wheelbarrows of sand bags and loose sand to the wall which was very difficult. The hole in the wall was  about 2 meters  wide and 4 meters long( this is an estimation - thickness of the dam wall). We only closed it up about a third of the hole - it was a shit of sand and bags to do that and i thought that was good enough  - it will hold. A while after that the flood rains came and the bags were not nearly enough to hold the pressure of the water in the dam so it broke and got washed away - loosing all the water in the dam.

I really felt like shit - the first sign that i did not actually do the best i could - because if I did I would not feel like shit. That is where I learnt about consequences - that when working n the physical you can see in real time the consequences of your actions - I learnt that my actions have REAL CONSEQUESNCES so i saw the reason why you should do things PROPERLY - rather make sure by doing MORE instead of risking not doing enough - no matter how i feel about it.

You do it once and proper so that you don't have to do it again. (We did then later fill that hole completely and hammered in steel rods. Then we even made the wall thicker with more bags to ensure it hold the water and not break.)

 

It is to do the best you can - to the best of your ability and then to find way to improve your best so that you can become more and more effective so that the ability gets better and better. Do not accept that you are doing your best - do better every time 

 

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Day 78 - Evil is just a part of the world

 

I was reading in a magazine where they had a section how to tell children that bad people are not cool. And one thing that was written down was to tell children that evil is just a part of the world - and that there cannot be good people if evil did not exist. Saying this to children is saying that evil is an acceptable part of life - that bad people must exist so ''don't worry about it children its just part of life''. That is really messed up - teaching children that they do not have to bother finding solutions, because evil is acceptable.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that  bad people is just a part of this world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that evil is just a part of the world and how life is

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be angry at evil and not want to see it and hide form it-  because it reminds me of myself as the evil also exist within me as with everybody

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to accept this part of life so that I do not have to do anything to change it

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself as a good person to fear evil - and out of this fear teach my children to stay away and tell them its part of life and there's nothing you can do to change it

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that being good and believing myself to be good - Then evil must exist and so being good I accept the evil in this world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to justify all the bad and evil in this world by saying without it good cannot exist - and although this statement of polarity is true - I forgive myself that I have accented and allowed good and evil to be a part of life

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that good and evil is not required or necessary in this world - that they are both sides of the same coin - that evil fuels good and god fuels evil in a never ending cycle and to stop the cycle i must first start within myself

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to let go of the polarity of good and evil and to instead direct myself with common sense to do what is best for all

I commit myself to not accept and allow evil as abuse and suffering to exist in this world and to believe it as part of life

I commit myself to stop justifying the abuse and suffering  in this world by believing it as part if life

I commit myself to to stop the polarity creation of good and evil and to instead use common sense and what's best for all to dictate

I commit myself to stop making excuses so that I can ignore all the bad things in life and not do anything about it - but to instead look right at it and find the cause for its existence and find solutions to end the abuse and suffering 

I commit myself to stop fearing evil and to realize that the evil exist within myself as well as the belief that i am good - and to instead direct myself and not be directed by fear so that i do not teach other fear

I commit myself to dedicate my life to not look away from fear and evil - but to stop it within myself and others by teaching others the same

Day 77 - Using Religion to justify this world

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use religion to justify myself and all of the world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use religion to justify war, poverty slavery and all abuse saying that it is part of gods plan and that cannot change or question gods plan

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to to use religion as a justification and excuse for me not doing anything to change the world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear not finding a reason why all the suffering exist in the world - because then it would invalidate my beliefs and proof that my beliefs are not real so i keep on justifying the world no matter what

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if I have to keep on finding proof and reasons why my belief is real and if i have to keep justifying it then that alone shows me that my beliefs are not real

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that justification is an excuse - that i have never looked back at history to see that religion has been used countless time to justify wars, slavery, torture, mass murders and other abuse in the name of god

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold on to this abuse so strongly that i will even justify rape by saying that it is a blessing from god - instead of realizing that it is the evil of man and the world that WE have created

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold on on my beliefs so strongly that i cannot see common sense - that if I cannot find a reason for something to exist i would just say that it is part of gods plan just so that i can continue my beliefs - not realizing that If rape, murder, poverty and great suffering is part of gods plan then this is a really evil plan -

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize if i do not question gods plan then i accept gods plan and then I also accept all the suffering and abuse of this world - and in this i will do nothing to change it - i will do nothing to end the suffering and the abuse because i agree with it. And so i am trapped by my religion as the perfect excuse not do anything.

I commit myself to stop justifying my action when i clearly see that what i am doing is not what is best for all beings, but that i am only acting based on self interest .

I commit myself to stop trying to justify the abuse and suffering in the world like war. poverty, rape, slavery etc, and to realize that I am using this to justify my beliefs

I commit myself to stop saying that all the suffering and abuse is part of gods plan and to realize that i am using this as an excuse for me not to have change the world - and to stop agreeing with gods plan by not accepting and allowing this world the way it is - and to instead find ways to end all suffering and abuse

I commit myself to to stop deliberately ignoring common sense - when i see my beliefs don't make sense to not keep on justifying it 

I commit myself to to realize that religion has been used in the past to justify countless suffering and that i am doing the same here now

I commit myself to to stop the fear of letting go of my beliefs and to see the common sense that what i believe on doesn't make sense and holds no real solution to the problems on earth, but instead it gives permission for the problems to continue

I commit myself to stop justifying the unjustifiable and to let go of all beliefs that allow the world to continue the way it does - but to instead se that there is a real problem on earth that must be sorted out and so i dedicate my life to find the solutions to the problems on earth that are permanent

 

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Day 76 -Rape a Blessing - Using Religion to Justify RAPE in this World

Sharon Barnes, a high ranking state Republican touched the subject of rape saying that being raped and getting a child from that rape is God blessing them.
Religion has for a long time now found many ways to justify the world and their beliefs. If god is the creator of everything in this world then he also Created Rape. So now the Christians have to find an answer to why would God create and allow rape in this world? Simply by saying that getting raped and pregnant from that rape is god blessing you with a child - so what you are saying is that god created rape so that some woman can get pregnant? This is very delusional and those who believe this should be diagnosed for mental disorders.
You cannot justify rape - religion have found ways to justify the unjustifiable, Because if they cannot justify something then that would go against what they believe. They cannot continue their beliefs unless they can find ways to justify everything in this world - all the bad shit. If there is no explanation then its ''part of Gods Plan''. This is very infuriating and unacceptable behavior and here is why: It gives then a perfect excuse not to do anything about it.
That is the pinnacle of all religions - To justify your actions ad the worlds actions and all the bad shit that's in this world so that you wont have to lift a finger to change it or do something about it. All that is needed to say is that it is gods plan - and i as a mere mortal may not interFEAR with Gods plan. Yes i typed interFEAR, because all Christians fear god. If you are a God-fearing man - you are a good Christian. And it is that fear why the world is in such a bad state. It is that inner fear that makes you not want to interfere with the problems like rape, but to instead find a way to make sure you wont have to do anything about it.
And so nobody interferes - the world is  allowed to continue the way it does because nobody is doing anything about it. Christians would say have faith and believe and pray for a better world. Its in Gods hands now - I cannot question gods plan. It is really messed up. So if you really have a deeper look at the whole point - the world is the way it is BECAUSE of religion.
If we had no religion - if we had common sense we would have such a better world to live ib - because then we cant abdicate OUR responsibility and hope and pray the world gets better and instead take matters into our own hands and realize that if i sit and pray and do nothing but that then nothing will happen. Its common sense that people need food to live and houses to live. They cannot survive with only books. Its utter stupidity to spend resources on bibles for the poor - rather give them food. That is common sense - but we do not have common sense.
Its up to us. If we do not do anything then nothing will happen. More on this tomorrow

Day 75 - I must be the Best!

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I must be the best and a head above the rest

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I should do everything I can to be better than everybody else

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this belief walk over others and used them for my own personal gain so that i can become better than them

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that i must compete with others so that I can survive in this world - and to better survive I should be better than everybody else

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give into this idea of competition and that it is necessary and the only way to survive in this world

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize the consequences of my actions and wanting to be the best and better than others will never bring equality

I forgive myself that I have accepted not and allowed myself to realize that if I believe I should be better than others and everybody else believes they should be better than everybody else - then we create a world where competition rules as every man for himself - which is what we have today

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that competition breeds self interest where i am only focusing on myself - and in this I ignore the world around me, because in order to be the best I must walk over people

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that I was taught  how to compete and chose it as who I am - and just as I have accepted this within myself I can not stop this within myself and realize that i do not need to compete to survive - that survival should not be a problem within this world

 

I commit myself to stop the belief that i must be the best in order to survive

I commit myself to no anymore dedicate my life to be a head above the rest as I was taught by the world

I commit myself to realize the consequences of wanting to be better than others - that it is based on self interest and disregarding others - that I will never find solutions to assist and support others because i want to be better than them and in this equality cannot exist

I commit myself to realize that If everybody want to better than everybody we will continue the path of this world and never bring the change that is needed for a world of equality where everybody wins

I commit myself to stop competing with others to be better than them - but to instead find the solutions needed for a quality life for all to exist

I commit myself to stop competing with others to boost my ego

I commit myself to give up the  illusion of power that comes with being the best - to stop the survival game  - but to instead start living and dedicate my life so that others can also live

Day 74 - Why should I When nobody else will!

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create the character '' why should I when nobody else will''

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to call upon this character when i am faced with a point that I do not want to do

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to rea lize that i use this character as an excuse not do something I do not want to do

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to call upon this character when I look at the state the world is in to use it as an excuse not to do anything about this world, because nobody else will then why should i

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use this character when presented with a solution for most of the problems on earth to not support it because I believe that nobody else will so why should I - not realizing that I am using it as an excuse not to do anything

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use this character when i see there is a rock in the path where many people will walk - And not move it out of the way so that nobody can get hurt but to leave the rock there, because I believe that nobody else will do it so why should I

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if I keep on using the excuse that ''other people wont do anything about this world the why should I'' - Then nothing will change and everything will stay the same

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that If I wait for others to change first before i do then the world will continue the why it is

forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that i created this character out if fear - the fear of change and losing that which I have become and the uncertainty that comes with change

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if i do not change and make the effort to do what needs to be done to change this world then nothing will happen - I am the key and standing as an example i can show others that it is possible to change

I commit myself to stop the ''Why should i when nobody else will'' character

I commit myself to stop using this character as an excuse to not do what needs to be done

I commit myself to stop waiting for other people to change before I do

I commit myself to stop using this character as an excuse and a valid reason not to find solutions to this world

I commit myself to realize that if i keep on using this character then no change will come and everything will stay the same

I commit myself to take self responsibility and not blame others for not changing - but to change myself regardless so that i can become an example of what is possible and then become effective in showing others what i have realized

I commit myself to stop the fear of change - to instead embrace the change - because we need change in this world as there is too much suffering and abuse - we need a new world

Day 73 - Everything in this world is OK

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that everything is ok in this world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that everything in world is as it should be and there is no need for it to change

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go about my life living in my personal bubble where life is a breeze and where i do not see what is really going in this world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give into this idea advertised in media where a pretty picture is always painted of the world - and to from this believe that this world is a good place to be

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not look deeper into what is going on in this world and to only look at things that will make me feel good and shun and ignore everything else that will make me feel bad.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear looking at what is really going on in this world - because i fear it will burst my bubble and my beliefs that this world is a beautiful place and everything is ok

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to look at all the suffering in this world - because then my beliefs will be irrelevant and then i would have to change who i am

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to to realize that this world is not ok - that there is much suffering and abuse in this world and that the only reason why a 'beautiful earth' is promoted is to make sure i do not change this world and remain a slave to the money system

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that the only reason my life is ok is because i have money - and for those who do not have money are going through much suffering and that this world system we have is not supporting all beings on earth

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to take self responsibility for myself and this world in finding solutions to change this world into a place worth living in for everybody - and not just for those who have money

I commit myself to stop the belief that everything in this world is ok and to see the truth that there is great suffering

i commit myself to stop being manipulated by media promoting a beautiful earth when i know that there is suffering and abuse and deceit all around me proofing that this world is hell for most

I commit myself  to realize that this world is only ok for those who have money - and that those without money are going through misery just to stay alive - all because this world system is not designed to support all life on earth - only those with money get support

I commit myself not to accept this world as it exist today - but to dedicate my life to make sure that all beings are supported by realizing that the equal money system will support all beings on life an to do all im able to implement such a system 

I commit myself to burst my bubble and to take self responsibility for my life and this world by finding solutions and expanding on them like the equal money system

I commit myself to change who i am so that I can be an effective human being in this world to bring the change i want to see in this world by becoming the change

Day 72 - ''I'll do anything to fit in'' Character Part 2

 

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to create the ''ill do anything to fit in ''character and to believe that this character is real and part of who i am

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to create this character and u  se it to change who i am so that i can fit in with my friends and be in a position where i belong.

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to use this character so that others can accept me - not realizing that me wanting others to accept me is me not accepting myself.

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to be a different person around my friends and family depending on the situation so that i can fit in with those people to avoid conflict and then not accepting me

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that i am compromising myself just so that i can fit in

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that as this character i am not real - it is a act. I am presenting myself as fake

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to ever saw and realize that who i am is fake - that it never occurred to me and that i saw what i was doing as normal and acceptable - not realizing that i was manipulating others to suit my needs

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that others also do the same - that those who i am friends with and like are characters and like me is not real and in this the friendship is not real. Its a bunch of characters liking other characters and that nobody is real

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to hide myself and who I am from others by creating this character out of fear not being accepted

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to fear becoming real and dropping the act - because i fear others will not like me anymore nor will they accept me anymore

I commit myself to delete the ''I will do anything to fit in character

I commit myself to stop changing who i am in order to fit in and be accepted by others and thus compromising myself and to instead accept myself

I commit myself to stop being a different person around certain people and certain situations but to be consist in who i am and to keep deleting the characters until i become real

I commit myself to stop changing who i am so that others can like me and to avoid conflict  - realizing that it is fear and not real

I commit myself to realize that being a character i am fake and not real, and that others are also fake and not real - and to continue showing others this and to support myself and others in becoming real

I commit myself to stop hiding myself from others by creating characters but to instead realize that this is a fear of being judged and rejected - but it is actually me already judging myself and not accepting myself. If i accept myself then i would not need others to accept me so i drop this fear and commit myself in becoming real

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Day 71 - ''I'll do anything to fit in'' Character

 

This is related to when i was in school. Where i would change my behavior just so that i can fit in with other people so that they can accept me. So i would compromise myself and who i am so that i can keep my friends and then i change who i am and believe this character is real.

Peer pressure. You can look back in your life and realize that everybody does the same thing - they change themselves to fit in. I was a deferent person depending on who i am with. I would be the 'goody two shoes' character when im around my parents, teachers, friends parents and then a deferent person when im around my friends and then a deferent person when im arou nd a beautiful girl i like.

In this as i look back i ask myself who was I? Who was the real me? When i look at how i was when i was alone with myself i was again another person/character. When i was alone with myself there was no need to change. That was the person who i really was. But i alone knew that and how i presented myself to others was fake and not real. Simply characters so suit my life and the particular situation I was in.

Now i have to ask myself who was I friends with? The person i was friends with was also another character and not a real person. It was somebody like me who chose to be a particular character depending on who they were with. And everybody is like that, a bunch on characters.

Nobody was real - nobody revealed who the really are just like I hid myself from others. And i did this out of fear. We do this out of fear. The fear of not being accepted by others - the fear others not liking who you really are, The fear of others judging who you are.

I find it interesting that I never saw myself as being fake/nor real. I thought i was real. Everybody think they are real. We all believe that this person and character is who we are. But if i was real then who i was would never change. I would not create different characters around different situations, I would be consistent in who I am and what I do no matter the situation or who i am with.

And so I chose and created my characters and became friends with characters that i liked, in this lived a lie - it wasn't real. Who is the real me. Who are you?

This is why I am busy with getting rid of all the characters i have created, because i realize now that it was all a act. I need to become real - find the real person. We all need to become real. To Keep it real 

 

More on dropping the act an becoming real tomorrow. While you anxiously wait for part two go here and vote for a real world at www.equalmoney.org

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Day 70 - The Hope Character

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create the Hope Character to help me cope with life and to not make it seem so bad

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this character use hope when i do not want to the actual work when wanting something done but to instead simply hope it will get done

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hope that I will feel better tomorrow instead if realizing that if i do nothing then nothing will change

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hope that the hungry people in the world will get fed - not realizing that if i do not do something about it and only hope then nothing will happen.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hope that everything will be ok tomorrow - not realizing that if I do not move myself and find the solution to my problems then nothing will change

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to Hope I pass the exams when i did not prepare myself effectively and thus abdicated responsibility 

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that i give away my self responsibility when i hope and do nothing but hope

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that simpl y hoping will get things done

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that with hope the things i hope for will magically happen without me having to do anything

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use hope as an excuse not to have to do anything, because hoping for something is really easy - instead of realizing that i cannot just hope and then do nothing - i have to create physically that which I hope for 

I commit myself to stop the hope character and realize that it is useless to hope

I commit myself to realize that when I do a task and complete in my mind and hope it will be as it is in my mind without realizing that the physical reality is not the same as my mind  it is useless

I commit myself to realize that hoping some task will be done without me actually doing something and physically moving then it will not happen

I commit myself to realize that hoping i will feel better tomorrow without me finding the problems and working them out and finding solutions then i will still be the same and nothing will change

I commit myself to realize that hoping the hungry people will be fed is useless - because if i do not do something about it then nothing will happen

I commit myself to realize that hoping is an excuse and me not wanting to do any actual work because hoping is very easy

I commit myself to take self responsibility by stopping the hoping for something by doing the actual physical action required in order to get something done

I commit myself to realize that hoping for something will not make it magically be so unless i do something about it

Day 69 - 'Ode To our Children' - Free Download for all Part 2

 

New song released- ''Ode to our Children'' created by Robot Virgins (Cerise Poolman & Fidelis Spies) and Earthonites (Matti Freeman & Kelly Posey). Its a free download so simply click on it and listen to it now or while you read this blog.

 

Continuing:

"And so we choose this world of Pain
With a single choice
We can undo this mistake
By choosing a world that is not enslaved
Where freedom is free
And no one suffers again"

 

So this part expands the chorus. The choice that needs to be made is to choose life and not to accept and allow this world with all the abuse and suffering such as war, poverty, famine, slavery the list goes on. Then to instead fond ways to stop creating this bullshit on earth but to make this world a world worth living in.

 

The only way to live a of worth is to have money - because without money you have no freedom and with money you can buy freedom. So in today's world freedom is not free, billions suffer because they do not have the money to live. We all live on this world and the world should be shared - but instead we created a world where you have to pay to be alive.

 

"We created this world from the choices we made 
We creating this world from the choices we make

We are the shepherd of earth
Together we shape our worth
Into this world we bring
And leave to our children everything "

 

We are shepherds of earth - meaning it our responsibility to take care of the world. Of all the beings in earth we are the only ones who have the power and ability to take care of earth and make sure everything is running as it should - instead we used this power to consume the earth and destroy it - what a mess. This shows us our worth which is nothing. And then we bring children into this world and what future do they have? Not a very bright one.

 

"My choice, My Power, my salvation \ Our choice, our Power, our salvation

And so we create this life and all of the world "

 

The power of creation is choice - our choice is power and right now our choices is leading us into a bleak world. If I change my choice and choose to create a world free from abuse and suffering and where al needs are taken care of, and many others make that same choice until everybody lives this choice then "my" choice becomes "our" choice and then we have salvation. We save ourselves and our children's future

Make the right choice - choose life- choose an Equal Money System.

 

 

Day 67 - I don't Like My Body

 

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to not like my body and how it looks

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to  when i look in the mirror to have the thought of how im too fat, skinny, long, short, ugly, hairy etc

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to  to judge my body as not good enough

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to  in this judgement not want others to see my imperfections because I fear they will judge me

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that the judgement exist within me so when I fear someone judging me it is actually me judging myself and projecting myself onto others

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to  judge myself when I do not fit into a picture idea i have created in my mind of how i should look like

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to  realize that I created this believe of how i should look like through magazines and television where i am told ho w i should look like - not realizing that i am being manipulated by media so that i can feel like i am not perfect so that I can buy the products that will make me fit into this picture i see in the magazine

I forgive myself that i have mot accepted and allowed myself to realize that the picture i see in the magazine of a beautiful woman with perfect skin is not real - it is Photoshop and fake and placed there to deliberately make me feel inferior so that i can buy their product

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that nobody i have seen in real life and my whole life looked like the picture I see - that the picture i see is not natural - but that who i am and my shape is natural and real

I forgive myself that i have mot accepted and allowed myself to realize that the belief that my body has imperfections was created and is a belief that I took in as real when it is not real. Imperfection is a made up word

I commit myself to stop judging myself on how my body looks like

I commit myself to stop being manipulated by media that tell me i am imperfect and to see that the picture i see is fake and that no person looks like that - its an idea created so that can buy products

I commit myself to stop fearing others judging me and to realize that it is me judging myself

I commit myself to wanting to fit into a picture  idea i created i my head and to realize that it is not natural and who i am is natural and that those who use make-up and made up and thus not real

I commit myself to stop wanting to change my body and to stop believing it would make me feel better, because i created the thought that my body is ugly based on a perception and believe ingrained in me from advertising

I commit myself to stop this abuse that advertising causes in the name of money by not accepting it and to support a system where this abuse will no longer exist

Day 66 - Being a good Person is actually being Selfish

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to create the '' I am a Good person character to help me deal with situations in life
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that this character is real
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to present myself as a good character by changing my voice to a higher pitch when speaking to others so that they can see i am a good person and then be more likely to accept me and agree with me
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to manipulate others by setting myself up as being a good person to avoid conflict - not realizing that i created this character out of fear of conflict
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to to fear conflict so much that I would create the I am a good person character as a defensive mechanism just to avoid it
I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to go into this character with others as an attempt to not be judged by others = not realizing that i don't fear their judgement but that i have the judgement within myself already so it is me I who is judging myself
I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to when as a child to when i saw somebody got yelled at for not being good - to make the conclusion that i should then present myself as being good so that i do not get yelled at - because i fear being yelled at
I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to believe that being a good person is for the benefit of others and that i am doing others a service by being good with them - not realized that i am being selfish because i am only being good to benefit myself and my life and if i has nothing to gain from being good i will not be a good person
I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that being good is not about a feeling or to feel good about being good - but to do something because it is what i would have liked for myself - to do something through understanding the need for it  and that it needs to be done regardless of how i feel about it, because then i am self directed and not depending and limited by a feeling
I commit myself to delete the 'i am a good person character
I commit myself to stop manipulating others by changing my voice a little higher to make them like me
I commit myself to stop wanting to get something from others by being the good person
I commit myself to to stop going into this character to get others to like and accept me and to stop seeking acceptance from others but to instead accept myself
I commit myself to stop going into this character to avoid conflict but to instead if hiding away from conflict to face it
I commit myself to stop going into this character to avoid being judged by others - not realizing that i am the one who who is judging myself and so to stop judging myself
I commit myself to stop the believe that i need this character to be able to avoid being yelled at
I commit myself to see that being a good person is being selfish and based in self interest - because I depend on a feeling before I do something - So i then instead to do something through understanding the need for it  and that it needs to be done regardless of how i feel about it, because then i am self directed and not depending and limited by a feeling so
I commit myself to stop wanting to get something from others by being the good person

Day 65 - Also Attracted to Broken Girls Part 2

 

Here follows the process of self change and taking self-responsibility for myself and my life regarding this blog :   I write here as the person/character i was when i was younger so i bring the past and the memories and experiences to here in the present moment and write it out

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create the character of being attracted to broken girls and to live my life with this part of who i am

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to define those who are in pain as being  broken and lost and need saving

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to specifically seek out those who are in pain so that I can put myself in a position where I can save them

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to be their savior by helping them to get over the point that is controlling their life and wanting to fix them so that i can feel better about myself

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that i can only live life if i feel good and that if i do not feel good and feel like shit all the time i wont be able to continue living

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that the reason i helped others was because of fear - the fear that if I continue to feel like shit i wont be able to continue this life and so I have to help others in order to feel good to be alive

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to ever realize that i created this character when my mother died and that i have based my life on that event

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this savior character sacrifice my life and only focus on fixing them completely disregarding myself

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that what i am seeing within them is myself and that the only reason why i want to save them is so that they don't continue feel the pain I am feeling - and in that i am hiding myself and ignoring my own problems and not taking self responsibility by sorting myself out

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to assist and support myself - to never realize the possibility that i have the power to overcome this depression and to delete this character and become real - that i am the creator of my life and everything i experience and thus i have the power to get rid of the bullshit i created in my life

 

I commit myself to stop and delete the character of wanting to be with broken girls so that i can save them

I commit myself to stop and delete the savior character so that i can feel good about myself when helping others - because i see the selfishness of this - that i am not helping others for their sake, but that I an doing it to feel good which is a limitation and a condition: I will only help others if it makes me feel good - this is not not a selfless act - it is self interest

I commit myself to  realize that i am seeing myself in these girls and i am helping them because i want to help myself and so I commit myself to stop hiding myself and to look at the points in my life and to sort out my problems

I commit myself to stop and delete the depression that i created which is controlling my life, my actions, my words and thoughts .

I commit myself to become self directed by not allowing a feeling or my past to control my life - but to do something because it is what is best for not and not only myself

I commit myself to stop the fear of death

I commit myself to stop disregarding myself and hiding myself from myself - but to face my self

I commit myself to assist and support myself by becoming real - because only real people can make a real difference in this world

Day 64 - Also attracted to broken girls?

 

Some introspection.

I was reading Gian's blog about being attracted to broken girls and i looked back in my life and realized I was the same. When i was in school i was attracted to girls who had something happen to them in the past or who are sad and depressed.

I remember a girl I was 'dating' in school and I liked her - she had problems with passing out at school and being generally distracted and i wanted to help her because I saw she needed help. And for me to help a girl back then was to be with her which meant dating her which will make her feel better. It pained me to see her suffer so I did all i could to help her - i found out she was bulimic which was the reason she passed out - because she wasn't eating.

Then there was another girl who I friends with who had a boyfriend who died in a car crash - they had a fight and he got very angry and went for a drive and then crashed. She was not the same after that so i wanted to help her because it pained me to see her sad and depressed about it.

I never questioned this point to find the reason why I liked girls who need saving. The reason why was because of my mother when she died the pain i went through has unbearable for me. And i did not want anybody to experience what i went through and thus i wanted to save people and help them get over it so that they don't suffer like I did - and it made me feel better about myself as i was also very depressed at this time and doing things like helping people i could handle the depression. And i was good at helping my friends when it came to their problems - but I could never help myself. I never even thought about helping myself, never occurred to me.

I never realized that i was the one who created the depression - and in that decision i created the character of wanting to save others from going through what i was going through. I never realized that i can then assist and support myself by getting rid of the depression, because i created it after all - i accepted and allowed it within me for years.

And that is what i did - with the tools I learned from Desteni I was able to get rid of the depression and to start living again and be self directive. Go to the forums for more information and i will also be continuing on the morrow with part two.

Day 63 - sPray happiness in you Nose

http://activistsjourneytolife.blogspot.com/2012/08/day-112-nasal-spray-trumps-counselling.html

A nasal spray that makes you happy - no need to work out your problems, simply spray chemicals into your body and all is fine with the world.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want my problems and issues to magically go away - not realizing that I created these problems and thus i cant sort it out

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want a quick fix for my problems because i dont want to take self responsibility for myself and my actions by dealing with the problems i created

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to be happy all the time - not realizing that happiness and bliss is a distraction to keep me from seeing the true evil of this world and to make it seem as if everything is fine in the world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to be so happy that i would use drugs so that I can forget and ignore the bad things in this world and use it as an excuse not to change the world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that if everyone is just happy then the world will be different and a better place - not realizing that only those with money can be happy and for the rest of the world life is a miserable struggle to survive and that they cannot afford to be happy

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that there is no miracle cure for my problems and the only way for hem to go away is to deal with it myself

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if a drug makes my life easier by making me happy then my problems are not away - they are suppressed by this drug and still exist within me and that i would always be depended on this drug and so be  slave to it an the companies that develop it

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that the only reason this product exist is to use me and exploit my issues so that they can manipulate me by taking my money - not realizing that I have the power to sort out my own life and issues and to make them go away permanently

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to prefer a drug over self responsibility because I fear that i am not able to work through my problems and that they will consume me - not realizing that i am already consumed by them - i am taking a drug to make it go away

I commit myself to take self responsibility and sort out the mess that i am and created and allowed in this world

I commit myself to stop the hope that something else will save me from myself

I commit myself to realize that no drug makes my problems go away - it only suppresses it

I commit myself  to stop being deluded by happiness and bliss that makes me not se the true state of this world

I commit myself to stop ignoring this world and to dedicate myself and my life to change this world into a world worth living in - one person at a time staring with myself

I commit myself to see that the pursuit for happiness is actually a pursuit to selfishness - because there will always be someone who suffers because of it - and  if most of the world is in misery - so if i am happy i would not change the world

I commit myself to stop being manipulated by corporations and exploited - and to realize that this world is full of exploitation and to stop it

I commit myself to stop the fear of not being able to deal with my own problems and to see that it is only an excuse to not do so

I commit myself to take self responsibility for myself by sorting myself out and not to use drugs, but to use common sense and self honesty to permanently delete my issues and that of self interest so that i can assist with making this world a better place for all living in it

Join us here - www.desteni.org    www.equalmoney.org       for a world of true happiness for all 

Day 62 - Love is Fear

 

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to see that love is not the opposite of fear, but that it is exactly fear

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use love as a disguise for my fear so that i can live in ignorance - not realizing that I am living a life of fear

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to when i say 'I Love You' i am actually saying 'i fear you' - that i fear that person leaving me and in saying i love you i am reaffirming my fear and making sure i do not lose the other person

I forgive myself that i have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that when i say i love you to my children i create this fear within them and keep the fear cycle going and making sure they will always live a life of fear

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that Love is keeping me  from changing as it is fear  - and that in that fear of change i will use love to justify my actions and the world by saying all we need is love - not realizing that all the love in the world has not changed anything but that the world is getting worse all because we are fear

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that all I am is fear - that my parents taught me and kept me in line with fear - that all my actions and thoughts are based on fear - that the only reason christianity exists is because of fear and that all religion is based on fear - and that the world is based on fear to keep people ignorant.

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to see fear as normal and part of human nature and that because everybody fears is ok for me to have fear as well - not realizing that this is a limitation and another excuse not to face my fears and stop all fears

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that I created love as the perfect excuse so that i can believe and feel as if im doing the right thing because it feels good and it is considered good to love and that to love is very easy  - all so that i do not have to face myself and my fears and that i do not have to do anything to change myself to change the world

I commit myself to see the evilness of love that all it is is fear

I commit myself to realize that i used love to disguise my fears so that i do not have to face them and myself

I commit myself to stop saying I love you as a point of fear of losing someone 

I commit myself to stop the cycle of abuse as fear and to stop fear within myself so that i do mot teach my children or others how to fear

I commit myself to not use fear as a form of control and to see that religion is used this way where fear is used as control

I commit myself to not accept the belief that fear as part of human nature and that it is normal - but to stop this excuse and limitation by facing my fears and stop them and become self directed and not love/fear directed

I commit myself to stop using love/fear as an excuse not to change but to instead walk the fear/love and walk right into the fires of the hell i created within me and the world to face all fears so that I can put out the fires/fears that keep me from becoming real

Day 61 - how to work through missing someone (pt2)

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience sadness when someone leaves that has been around for a while

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience a empty feeling w ithin myself as if something went missing when somebody left me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I miss how that person made me feel

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that the person makes me feel the way I do and that because they left they took something with them and now i feel something is missing

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that the word missing indicates that i am missing something within myself that the other person creates when they are here and when they go it goes with them

I forgive myself that I not have accepted and allowed myself to realize that i am responsible for how i experience myself and that i created what i feel around somebody and that it is not them who creates it

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if i am the one who creates my experiences then i create the empty feeling in myself - It os not the other person that i miss - it is the experience i created when they were here that i miss and it goes away because i believe it is the other person who made me feel this when it is only me

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that i miss someone because I have not allowed or accepted myself to give myself that which the other person showed me through their expression

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that when i miss someone i miss myself - they stand as a mirror reflecting me - and that to instead then investigate what that other person seemingly fulfills in my life and then to give it to myself

I commit myself to stop the emptiness when someone leaves

I commit myself to stop being directed by the sadness when someone leaves

I commit myself to stop the belief that its the other person who makes me feel the way I do

I commit myself to realize that i am the one who creates what i feel and experience within myself

I commit myself to realize that missing someone is me missing what that person showed me through their expression and that it is me who believes it goes with them when they leave

I commit myself to no longer deny myself what the other person is showing me and to accepted it make it my own

I commit myself to realize that others are a mirror and are a reflection of myself

I commit myself to stop the missing/emptiness/unfulfillment and to gift myself in this process of making myself whole/complete/equal and one.

Day 60 - How to work through Missing someone (pt1)

So missing someone

(Read the whole blog otherwise you'll from another idea and belief since you don't have all the context)

In our lives we come into contact with many beings and we form certain connections and come to like them. We like them based on, for example how they make us feel and what they do for us. We become used to their presence, how we experience ourselves in their presence and like being around them. So when they leave you it feels as if there is something missing in you/your life - a empty space that they used to fill.

We all have lived our lives thinking that it is the other person like a friend or family member or partner that makes us feel the way we do about them and that they are the only ones who can fill the emptiness within ourselves when we miss them. Or when someone close to you dies it feels like something dies within you and leaves a empty space that cannot be filled - because they wont come back

The question is this: Does the person really make you feel good?  Is the other person responsible for how they make you feel? Or is it you who create the feeling within you? It is you.

I create what i am feeling and what is happening within me. And  I am also responsible for the feeling of emptiness when I miss someone. So you can see that Missing someone has nothing to do with the other person, its all you. It is based on a perception and belief that you cannot give yourself what the other person seemingly gives you when they are with you - so when they leave you you feel an empty space within yourself, because you believe they fill the gap when it is actually only you who created it. What we haven’t realized in relationships is that we tend to place parts of ourselves in others, expecting others to fulfill parts within ourselves we haven’t accepted/lives as ourselves, and so we separate ourselves into others, instead of standing whole/complete/equal and one with ourselves. And thus why, when others leave – the ‘missing’ experience is actually show us that we’re ‘missing ourselves’; that we should investigate what it is that others fulfill inside ourselves and so gift it to ourselves, live it ourselves, accept it as ourselves.

So to put it simply: You create the experience within yourself when you are with someone. You create the experience within you when you miss that someone. You create the emptiness. YOU miss the experience you created. Starting to see something here? How can you miss an experience that you create daily when with the other person when the experience has nothing to do with the other person? ‘Nothing to do with other person’, meaning: the other person is simply standing as a mirror of ourselves within ourselves. When we have a part within ourselves, such as ‘comfortability’ that we haven’t accepted as ourselves, and we form a relationship with another person that is comfortable with themselves and you become attracted to that, and only in relationship with the person you are comfortable with you. But when/as the relationship ‘break up’ the compatibility also disappear, cause you connected the compatibility to only exist in relationship with the being within your Mind and haven’t accepted it as you. So, when/as one live that self-comfortably in equality and oneness it is self and not a part of self that can disappear/leave/cease to exist as it’s a living expression of self. Its all You - it doesn't die with the person and it doesn't go away with the other person. And so, relationships have become connections where we ‘fulfill each other’, and then ‘break down’ when the connection sever as the parts of ourselves that the other fulfilled is no more ‘there’ and we’re left ‘empty / unfulfilled’ and then we go and search/seek again for another to fulfill us. But, imagine the potential in relationships when two partners are whole/fulfilled within themselves in standing within who they are; then a relationship becomes a platform where they can grow/expand/develop more – instead of what it’s become now: trying to fulfill each other, which in this limit the relationship to only try and please each other, instead of focusing on developing/expanding/living/learning from each other in equality and oneness.

Don't misunderstand me here - I am not saying that you should not miss somebody. I'm still getting there...

So it is important to see that you are the creator of the experiences within YOU, the experience you have in relationships, the missing, the emptiness, the fulfillment, the unfulfilled. Another persons expression can have a major impact in your life - they are reveling an aspect of yourself that you have not realized or accepted as yourself yet or gave it yourself yet. So when they leave you miss that - instead of giving it to yourself. Thus, utilize relationships with others practically – see what you can learn about YOU with them, within yourself and so expand/grow/develop who you are within yourself.

In the End missing someone is Missing yourself - and when that aspect of yourself leaves you miss it - you miss the expression of that being and that is ok. Then it becomes real equal and one: You realize that the other person showed you something about yourself that you have not realized and then you give it to yourself. Both are in the picture. And so commit yourself to stop the missing/emptiness/unfulfillment, and gift you to yourself in your process of making you whole/complete/equal and one.