Day 294: #HoldACokeWithYourBoobsChallenge is now a thing

The Internet did it again.The  #HoldACokeWithYourBoobsChallenge is going viral. Woman taking selfies holding a can or bottle of coke with nothing but their boobs is apparently a bid to raise awareness of breast cancer. The irony here is quite thick, because those who had breast cancer and mastectomies will never be able to hold anything up.

 Showing your Boobs and how much of it you have and your ability to hold up a can of coke is more like a slap in the face to those who had a mastectomy. Not to mention that coke itself is not a very healthy drink…

The reason this is getting so much attention is simple, very few men would not want to see a woman showing off her breasts. It’s the height of narcissism to post half-naked selfies for their own sake but it’s also pretty duplicitous to claim you’re doing it for a valiant reason.

Even the Breast cancer foundation had this in response: 

“Breast Cancer Research Foundation does not support this campaign and we do not plan on accepting any donations from this campaign. Breast cancer is a serious global health issue that impacts millions of women and men around the world and we believe that breast cancer should not be trivialized.”

There is no problem with raising awareness for a cause or to help a cause, but the Boob challenge is not the way. Rather do something that will actually help. Many woman do not know how to check for lumps that could be a sign that’s its cancer. Instead of putting a coke between your breasts a better option would be to do an educational video on how to check for lumps or something like that. Unfortunately even that will become more about the sexual part ( BOOBS) than the actual educational part, but still would be better than what is currently going on.

To sum up – if you are going to do something for a cause make sure it will actually benefit and help the cause. The #HoldACokeWithYourBoobsChallenge is not helping anything, only narcissism…

Day 288: Family – Why this desire will destroy your life

 

This is so deep rooted within most – the desire to have a family. How many women and men out there dream about their perfect wedding from a young age? Why would this desire be the end of you? What makes this particular desire so dangerous?

One on my favorite Comedy TV shows is Scrubs . One of the characters ( Elliot) is your stereotypical girly girl. Ever since she was a kid she had dreamed of her perfect wedding and already had a book dedicated to wedding plans in case she ever gets a proposal. In one of the episodes she is engaged to a guy and having doubts whether she should marry this guy or not and asked advice from her friends. At one point a guy asks her a very important question: “Do you really want to marry this guy, or do you just want to be married?”

She had this desire to be married from a very young age as most people do. It’s something that’s ingrained from a young age – the purpose of life is to get educated to get a job to have money to raise a family and then die. So Elliot realized that she does not actually want to marry this guy – but that she just wanted to be married. It was not about the guy at all – only the idea of being married.

Just like the desire for relationships – it becomes all about the desire to be with someone no matter who it is. The same is for the Desire for family – it doesn’t matter who it is really it’s not about the actual person you are with but more just the idea of being married. And so many people compromise themselves and their lives just for the sake of fulfilling this desire. The desire takes over and all common sense and what is practical and all sense of living principles goes out of the window. It all becomes about the desire. What makes this so difficult for people to see is that we find any excuse or justification to make our desires a reality and in the end we are completely controlled by it.

Again – this is not real. Would you not rather be in a relationship that is supportive and not based on a need or desire? IF your starting point is desiring a relationship then all you have is a relationship with the desire. I will end with this from my previous blog and continue with it in the next:

A real relationship has nothing to do with fulfillment or desire – it’s taking responsibility for another being and supporting them to be the best they can be. Now, what does that mean exactly? Let us see the answer in the next blog

Bestseller “ Boy who came from heaven” – admits he made it all up…

 

Alex Malarkey was in a car accident that left him paralyzed and in a 2 month long coma when he was 6 years old. The book he wrote with his father is the “true story” of events that unfolded during that time where he went to heaven.

In an open letter for the Pulpit and Pen blog, the now teenaged Alex stated, “I did not die. I did not go to Heaven. I said I went to heaven because I thought it would get me attention. When I made the claims that I did, I had never read the Bible. People have profited from lies, and continue to. They should read the Bible, which is enough. The Bible is the only source of truth. Anything written by man cannot be infallible.” I will not go into the fact that the bible was also written by man.

A great deal of profit was made from this book and others like it – what Alex experienced is something called “heavenly tourism” and the Christian industry is cashing it in. People find this very interesting and with good reason, because nobody knows what happens when we die and to read about brings comfort. But even if you did believe this account of Alex’s story to be the absolute truth – it should not be a surprise that it was a lie. Alex was a 6 years old kid and suffered major brain trauma.

From salon article:

“…Pulpit and Pen has posted emails suggesting that LifeWay president Thom Rainer received direct information months ago that “Alex does not support this book.” Note that Alex’s mother Beth – who is now divorced from his father — wrote last April that “Alex was a kid with major brain trauma which alone should raise questions as to validity,” and that “Alex’s name and identity are being used against his wishes (I have spoken before and posted about it that Alex has tried to publicly speak out against the book), on something that he is opposed to and knows to be in error according to the Bible.”” –

http://www.salon.com/2015/01/16/boy_who_came_back_from_heaven_he_didnt_go_to_heaven_after_all/

I am not going to go into the delusion of religion – my main point here in this blog is that here you have a Christian publishing industry exploiting a child and then trying to keep the poor kid from coming clean – all for the profit motive. People made allot of money using this child by exploiting people’s beliefs even though they knew the book was a lie. As long as the book sells it’s all that matters.

The writer of the salon article ended with a very cool question:

“And if heaven were real, I’d question today who, in the very lucrative and dubious world of Christian celestial tourism, would actually deserve a ticket to it — and who would be turned away.”

Just because the TV said so Does not mean it is...

 

“”The researchers sat through 40 episodes of the “The Dr. Oz Show”; from those, they identified 479 separate recommendations he or his guests made to his TV audience. After winnowing the selection down to more forceful recommendations, they randomly selected 80 and weighed them against the existing medical literature, evaluating each claim for “consistency and believability.” Only 46 percent of the advice, they found, had evidence supporting it, and just 33 percent of the time were those claims supported by “believable or somewhat believable evidence.” For just more than 1 in 3 recommendations, they weren’t able to find any supporting information at all (despite, they note, “being quite liberal in the type and amount of evidence we required”).

Interestingly, the researchers noted that about 58 to 59 percent of the time, Oz never specified the supposed benefit of what he was recommending — the implication, apparently, being that viewers should do things simply because the TV doctor is telling them to. They observed as well that the show rarely detailed the potential harms and costs of recommendations; thus, they write, “anyone who followed the advice provided would be doing so on the basis of a trust in the host or guest rather than through a balanced explanation of benefits, harms, and costs.”’”

http://www.salon.com/2014/12/19/scientists_prove_that_you_shouldnt_trust_anything_dr_oz_says/

It’s in TV so it must be true. It’s in the Newspapers so it must be true. TV has always been a clever way for companies or people to make money. With shows like DR. OZ and Oprah it is mostly based on trusting the person presenting the stuff and not whether the products being sold actually works.

And as we can see from the article above, most of the things being presented have no real proof if it works or not and the only reason why you would buy it is because the person on the TV said so, It does not have to based on actual facts. With this there are people behind the scenes cashing in on people who trust the TV.

It’s the same with the news – you cannot know how true the story is unless it’s actually about you personally. I have had the experience of a newspaper writing an article about us and the end result turned out to be 100% opposite to the actual facts. Yet, it’s in the paper and people believe it to be true.

The point I’m making here is that you cannot trust anything solely based on “Its TV so it must be true”. The same with newspapers and even the stuff you buy in the stores – just because it’s not the shelves does not mean it’s safe to eat. The only real way of knowing if something is true or not is to go and investigate yourself which is something that is simply not practical for most of us. And this leaves us with a dilemma, because how do you then know if it’s true?

So, next time you see something on TV that tells you to buy this great and amazing thing – first do your research and investigation and do not simply trust what the TV tells you.

Day 244: Shocking Discovery: The engagement ring is a SCAM created by clever advertising

 

Where did the ring come from?

https://www.ted.com/talks/rory_sutherland_life_lessons_from_an_ad_man/transcript?language=en#t-440000

“But, actually, the point of placebo education is interesting. How many problems of life can be solved actually by tinkering with perception, rather than that tedious, hardworking and messy business of actually trying to change reality? Here's a great example from history. I've heard this attributed to several other kings, but doing a bit of historical research, it seems to be Fredrick the Great. Fredrick the Great of Prussia was very, very keen for the Germans to adopt the potato and to eat it, because he realized that if you had two sources of carbohydrate, wheat and potatoes, you get less price volatility in bread. And you get a far lower risk of famine, because you actually had two crops to fall back on, not one.
The only problem is: potatoes, if you think about it, look pretty disgusting. And also, 18th century Prussians ate very, very few vegetables -- rather like contemporary Scottish people. (Laughter) So, actually, he tried making it compulsory. The Prussian peasantry said, "We can't even get the dogs to eat these damn things. They are absolutely disgusting and they're good for nothing." There are even records of people being executed for refusing to grow potatoes. 
So he tried plan B. He tried the marketing solution, which is he declared the potato as a royal vegetable, and none but the royal family could consume it. And he planted it in a royal potato patch, with guards who had instructions to guard over it, night and day, but with secret instructions not to guard it very well. (Laughter) Now, 18th century peasants know that there is one pretty safe rule in life, which is if something is worth guarding, it's worth stealing. Before long, there was a massive underground potato-growing operation in Germany. What he'd effectively done is he'd re-branded the potato. It was an absolute masterpiece. “- Rory Sutherland

That is one example of how easy it is to manipulate us humans. Throughout history people looked for ways to make people like something so that they can get something out of it. I remembered when I was a Kid and watched TV with all the commercials. There were many toy advertisements in there and allot of them were so cool to me. I watched the advert and then afterwards I wanted that toy and liked it. That liking it was not my choice really, it was the clever use of sounds and colors that made the product look awesome. When I had the toy in my hand more often than not it was a disappointment as most things are.

This brings to question all the things I liked that I saw on TV and did not like and most of it was based on clever advertising – just to make me buy the things. Another very god example is the Engagement ring scam. Ever heard of it? Why do you buy a diamond ring to get married? Where did this expensive tradition come from? Advertising.

Before the ring “tradition” ,people did not actually buy rings to get engaged. It was created by the same people who mined the diamonds. They were looking for a way to make more money by creating a demand for it. What followed was an extensive and elaborate, very effective marketing and advertising campaign to convince people that they need to buy a diamond ring to get engaged. The company spent Millions and millions to get this idea in our heads. Just how effective was this? We still believe in it today and made it part of our society as an absolute necessity to get married. It is already so ingrained that even knowing this info – you will still buy a ring to get married. The company made a fortune out of this of course. Edward Jay Epstein notes in his famous investigative article:

"In its 1947 strategy plan, the advertising agency strongly emphasized a psychological approach. "We are dealing with a problem in mass psychology. We seek to ... strengthen the tradition of the diamond engagement ring -- to make it a psychological necessity capable of competing successfully at the retail level with utility goods and services...." It defined as its target audience "some 70 million people 15 years and over whose opinion we hope to influence in support of our objectives." N. W. Ayer outlined a subtle program that included arranging for lecturers to visit high schools across the country. "All of these lectures revolve around the diamond engagement ring, and are reaching thousands of girls in their assemblies, classes and informal meetings in our leading educational institutions," the agency explained in a memorandum to De Beers."

So, the things we buy, do we know why we buy them? Is it all just based on impulses and a play on our emotions and feelings? Is everything we do basically based on how we feel? Yes, that is why it is so easy to get us to like stuff, because we ourselves are unable to make objective choices. How do we stop this manipulation and make choices objectively? Who can we start becoming the directive principle in our lives where we ourselves make the choices? Until we find a way to direct our feelings and emotions we will always be subjected to clever advertising.

Day 179 - Everybody makes mistakes

 

Everybody makes mistakes

The first time I saw these words was on a shirt. On the shirt it was written “ EVERYBODY MAKES MISTAKES”. I looked at this shirt and I felt relieved. I thought that it was awesome that everybody makes mistakes. It is not just me. It is ok to make mistakes, because everybody else also makes mistakes. It showed me that nobody is perfect and no matter that I do I will make mistakes just like everybody else.

It also shows the general belief of humanity – that the human is imperfect and will always f**k up. That no matter how hard you try you will always make mistakes. It promotes limitation. It is a very nice statement that justifies limitation and actually makes you feel good for being limited.

I completely disagree with this statement of limitation. Yes - everybody makes mistakes, but that should not make you feel good for being imperfect and part of a world full of mistakes. It should motivate you to become perfect. That is the point of mistakes – to learn from them and never make the same mistake twice. Then you stop making the same mistake.

Everybody makes mistakes – that should make us all feel ashamed for being human. It is like the statement “ nobody is perfect”. Why the f**k not? Why can the human not be perfect? Why should I accept this limitation? I did not ask these questions. I saw it as a very nice statement and it made me feel good not to be perfect. It is a very nice justification and excuse to not find a way to be perfect.

So – it is cool to make mistakes, because it is the best way to learn. You learn from mistakes and move on with new found wisdom that can be used to not make the same mistake again. Perfection comes from learning from your mistakes and pushing through to not make them again. The 7 year journey to life is a journey to perfection. Let us stop this limitation and justification of rewarding imperfections and instead become perfect human beings:

Desteni

Self Worth and Self Development

 

 

I have looked at the point of self-worth and self-value before and now some new points have opened up: Other dimensions of self-worth and self-value (or the lack thereof), as well as the consequences.

I have been working with the physical for a few years before I got Graves disease. I have developed my skills and got myself to a point where I was effective within a particular physical activity/process. What I did not develop effectively during those years was my "inner" skills - my beingness, as who I am in/as my Living. Within this there is a Miss-alignment - developing one part and ignoring the other (missing the equal and one alignment of me in my within and without, my who I am within and how I live without). What I found interesting is that I have constant lower back pain and the physical reason is that my body is skew – miss-aligned. My right side is lower than my left. I am busy with some exercises to correct this.

My lack of self-worth played a role in this - where I told myself that I don't matter and what matters is doing tasks and keeping myself busy with it; all the while keeping myself from developing myself. If I look at it now it is also a point of "self-sacrifice" - where I dedicate my life helping out and helping others, but ignoring myself in the process, because I saw myself as not being important. I have lived my life like this believing that I am doing "good" and that It makes me a "good" person, but all I have done is ignore myself and my life.

It is time to realign myself and realize that I cannot keep on ignoring myself. It is important to develop myself so that I can be an effective living being. Develop self-skills and become directive and effective within it just like I did with working in the physical.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create the  belief and idea that I do not matter

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to within this belief go into a "self-sacrifice" of only helping out and helping others and ignoring myself, not realizing that I cannot in fact assist/support/help others if I have not in fact done this for myself, within myself and so my own life

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to in my lack of self-worth and self-value to not develop myself and improve myself to become effective, because I believed that Other people are more important that I am

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to live with this miss-alignment and believe that I am a good person by only helping out other people - not realizing that This was a belief and perception. Holding onto a belief of ‘I am a “good person”’ as a Personality I then fueled/validated, instead of actually finding out who I am

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that I limited myself by ignoring myself and only helping others - because If I do not change myself I stay the same instead of developing myself to become more and more effective.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that I cannot support another effectively if I do not support myself first

I commit myself to stop the belief and idea that I do not matter - instead I realize the importance of myself and developing myself to become effective, because the more effective I am the better I can assist and support others

I commit myself to stop the "self-sacrifice" character and start paying attention to myself and my self-development and realize that before I can truly assist and support another I must be able to assist and support myself.

I commit myself to stop limiting myself and disabling myself by not assisting and supporting myself within self-development - instead I dedicate myself to become effective within myself

Day 161 - Change is possible.

 

I am busy with a project where I take pictures of trees. It started a few years ago when we first planted fruit trees. What I did is: stand in the same place and take pictures of a tree once in a while and then after a while I have a time-lapse of the tree’s growth. I can see how the trees have grown over the years when I view the pictures in order.

It is fascinating to see this, because trees grow very slowly. So slow that you do not even notice it. It is only after a few years that you look at this tree and go: "wow, you have grown". I have a collection now of a few select fruit trees and will make a video for all to see soon. This first picture here is the first Fig tree we had on the farm and the second shows how big it has grown over the years.

The same can be said to how we change within ourselves. We do not notice how much we have changed and overcome - it is only when you look back do you realize that you have grown/changed, but you do not see it as it is happening.

That is how I have experienced progress within myself in regards to my process of self-change  to become an effective living human being. When I first started my process, one of the points that came up  within me was: "this is taking too long, I am getting nowhere". We have the desire to get things done fast, to see results right now and when we do not – it becomes easier to give up. We learn from TV and advertisements where things move fast and as soon as something takes too long, we think it not worth it or less than. Like a computer for instance: They made an expensive laptop that completely starts up within 2 seconds, because waiting another 28 seconds is just not good enough anymore.

Within all this haste and expectations this fig tree still grows - slowly but surely, consistently branching out as it expands itself and deepens its roots to become more stable . Soon it will bear fruit that will provide sustenance for others. We should all learn from this tree. Change is a slow process and it takes time. It is to be patient and consistent within all you do and not giving up or giving in and after a while when you look back you go “wow, I have grown/changed", just like it is with the tree. 

Day 155 - Future Projection

 

Winter is coming. The nights are getting colder and the early morning have a bite about them. Rain is getting less and trees are getting ready for their long sleep by shedding their leaves as the wind brush beside them.

On the farm winter means dry season and dry season means fire season. With the frost and cold that kills and the rain that deprives the grass - the fields get very dry, creating perfect fuel for fire. Each farm has the responsibility for making their own fire breaks - that is when you burn the grass along your borders to prevent a fire from jumping from one farm to another. Winter also means preparing fruit trees so that they are protected from the frost and cold. It’s time for winter preparations to begin.

When I was looking at this I went into anxiety and started to worry and the usual suspects made an appearance: Time - what if we do not make it in time and the farm burns down and the fruit trees dies. Rushing - We must hurry to make sure  we get it in time and now the one I am writing about: Future Projection.

What I did was go into my mind and thinking about winter and all the things we need to do, because we only have 1 month ‘till June and so went into anxiety. Yes, I even forgot for a moment there was a May still coming before we get to June. When I realized my error I was relieved.

What I should have done is look at things for what they are - meaning that instead of thinking about the future and worrying about it I instead simply look at what we need to do in order to be prepared for the winter and estimate how much time we need to be done and get to it. Firstly giving us enough time take out the possibility that we won’t have enough and thus there is no rush.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to project myself into the future and my mind so much so that I left out an entire month

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to remain here in the moment when looking at things that needs to be done in the future.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to look at things for what they really are here in the physical, but to look at things from the mind which is not real

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into anxiety when I looked at what we need to do to prepare for the winter

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear that if we do not get all the preparations done in time the farm might be at a greater risk from fire.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to when the first cold nights came to go into a memory of ''time to get to fire breaks'' that had an energy attached to it of anxiety and when I accessed this memory I also accessed the anxiety.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to remove this energetic attachment to the memory of anxiety so that it doesn't influence me anymore

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that if I give myself enough time do to things there will be no need  to rush and worry about time.

I commit myself to stop projecting myself into the future - instead I remain stable here in the moment when looking at things do to and prepare for in the future. Thus, utilizing future projection PRACTICALLY, through looking at what does need to be prepared for the coming winter, for example, assessing the time within that projection, as well as the responsibilities and then getting to it – no reactions required, only practical applications

I commit myself to look at things and situations for they really are and not influenced from my minds perspective

I commit myself to stop the automatic response of rushing when I see I have an important task ahead, instead I remain stable here and plan what needs to be done and then simply do it.

I commit myself to stop immediately looking at the worst case scenario - instead I realize that it’s from my worrying that I create the worst possible consequence.

I commit myself to stop the anxiety of worrying every time winter comes, instead I stop and breathe and realize that I have been through enough winters and know exactly what to do and how to do it and thus it’s pointless to worry about it and start trusting myself within this as I have proven this to myself over and over.

Journey to Life Day 37 - ''You cant change this World''

 

This particular character is one who looks at others dedicating their life's to make this world a better place - but instead to join in they say '' you do know that its impossible right?''. And it said without even the them lifting a finger to see for themselves if its impossible or not. You can never know unless you have given it your best.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into the character of giving up before i have actually started

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that this character is fictional who i created and in not real just like a movie character

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that making this world a better place is impossible based on my limited perception without even giving it a chance

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to step into this character as a form of self defence to protect my ideas and beliefs and out of fear of change

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not want change because I fear i will not be able to change and fail so instead of giving it a go i immediately try and bring others down to my level and beliefs

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give away my responsibility by saying that nobody can change this world just so that i don't’ have to do anything

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize the truth that I cannot change the world - that no one person can change the world

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that i can only change myself and then live as an example to others and proof to others that change is possible and then through that as each one change themselves one becomes many - and with many all together we can make this world a  better place

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to shy away from taking self responsibility and to believe that it is not possible for all to work together and to believe that nobody can change who they are - not realizing that the belief is based on nothing because i haven't even attempted to change myself to see for myself what is possible and what is impossible

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that I am the change - that who i am can determine everything and that I actually have the power to change the world by changing myself and to live as an example

I commit myself to stop the character saying ''you cant change the world''

I commit myself to realize that i am the example and proof that change is possible

I commit myself to live as an example to others and to show that you can change the world by changing yourself

I commit myself to stop saying things are impossible without giving it a go to see for myself first

I commit myself to realize that my perceptions are limitations and that mu beliefs are not real and invalid and not to listen to them anymore

I commit myself to stop wanting to bring others down to my level just so that i don’t have to change

I commit myself to stop the fear of change and to realize that the only way this world will improve is through change

I commit myself to stop the backchat which i allow to give up my responsibility.

Journey to Life Day 34 - I want to love again

 

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to love again - to feel the feeling of love which makes me feel good.

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold on to a picture/idea of what love is - that was based on how my mother loved me and ideas formed around former relationships.

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to re-experience love so much that i dedicate my life to look for it

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold on to memories of love and wanting to relive those memories and to be saddened by these memories - not realizing that they are not real, but that the feeling is what i have created.

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to in this desire to relive past memories to believe that only others can ignite the fire in my soul and to forever more search for 'the one' to make me love again

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that i will never be fulfilled unless I have found 'the one' and that I absolutely must to all it takes to find the one - not realizing that i am the one who create these feelings so what i am actually doing is compromising life - by ignoring what is really going on and not caring bout that what really matters but only thinking bout myself and making myself happy

I forgive that I have not accepted and allowed myself to realize that the want to love again is an act of utter selfishness - where i only care about my own happiness and in that not caring at all about others and sorting out this world

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that life's goal is to find somebody to love and spend the rest of my life with them - and in this life's goal i completely missed the point - what about others?

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to become blinded by my own feelings of love that I not even considered that i have the power to make a change this life - that i can make a difference - but instead I only looked after my own happiness.

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to become sad when I don’t have somebody to love and who will love me back and accept me for who i am - not realizing that if everybody accepted each other for who they are then there will be ZERO change in this life.

I forgive that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that love is a feeling - not realizing that feelings are not real - that love is action is practical movement and something that can be proven in the physical.

I forgive that I have not accepted and allowed myself to love myself to such an extend that I would do anything in my power to become effective so that I can make a change this life.

I commit myself to stop the delusion that love is a feeling but to see that love is practicality in action. That love is to never accept life the way it now to but to dedicate myself to make life as it should be - where all can truly live free

I commit myself to let go of memories that i want to relive and re-experience

I commit myself to realize that i created the feeling of love based on my past experiences and that nobody else can give it to me.

I commit myself to stop the search for the one, because I am the one and the only one who can change me

I commit myself to then not want to love again - but to love myself now enough to give myself the gift of life and others the gift the life to be free.

2012 - How I was able to hear the Desteni message

So I’m the Portal’s brother. I’ll start with a short history to show what kind of background we came from and how I knew without any doubt that the Desteni massage is real and a solution that everyone who wants to see change in this world must consider.

I was born and raised a Christian along with my sisters. My original language is Afrikaans so we were a typical Afrikaans Christian family. I never bothered with sci-fi, paranormal, otherworldly stuff or looked for aliens. I simply didn’t believe any of the stuff. I never even heard of mediums until I was 18. I never heard of ascension or the white light and knew nothing of new Age or spiritual masters. I didn’t even believe in demons. Only that Satan makes us sin and Jesus forgives them. I was a typical afrikaaner who believed I will go to heaven if I’m good and that God and Jesus loves me.

If I looked back at my childhood and summed it up and looked at the overall experience – it was really good. We were one of the lucky ones – we had both parents who raised us well and were always in a stable environment.

The death of our mother marked a change that affected us all in surprisingly different ways. For me I simply shut down and suppressed my feelings and ‘’suffered in silence’’. Basically I hid myself from others.

It was then when I started to see that something is wrong with what I believed in. I still didn’t wonder where I go when I die. I was either going to hell or cease to exist when I die. It didn’t really give a shit. I knew one thing – life is really messed up and there doesn’t seem to be a way to make it any better.

I met Bernard through sunette who was already living with the group for a while. What was fascinating about Bernard the first time I met him is that he gave a look - Like he could see inside me. Which I didn’t like back then because I was an introvert – hiding myself from others. I didn’t want people to see me or know how I feel. But if I look at it now the real point was that I didn’t even know what was really going on inside me. So the fact that he could see through me was very interesting. How can he know more about me than I do?

So I would say that caused the first spark of curiosity and why I wanted to find out more.

It was only after a few months of living with the group – and back then the group was small and we didn’t have a website yet – that I started to get a glimpse of how trapped we really are and how limited as well. And how I knew nothing about myself and what I knew wasn’t real – lol. I was very sceptical about it all at first. But one thing I could not deny was that the fact that the portal was real. That my sister actually left her body and other beings came through into her body. I knew it was real because I know my sister. The words the beings spoke and all the things they shared it was impossible for her to know all of it – because I grew up with her and never in our lives had we access to anything like it. We didn’t even know about channelling. Another thing that fascinated me is that the beings could see right inside you and could explain in an instant in extreme detail points within me I never shared with anyone and some I wasn’t even aware off. And to top it off they added support on how to deal with it - And to top that off in a way I could understand it and apply it. It was with these tools I got over my depression and faced many other points.

And the perspectives each of the beings shared was amazing. It was shocking to learn how little we really knew. There is a massive problem in this world and nobody is even aware of it.We are all trapped in our own little bubbles.

I remember Bernard asking a question – ‘’How do we get people to listen to something they don’t want to hear?’’. And that is what the group of Desteni have been busy with. Everyday consistently in whatever way spreading practical common sense. Back then it was a small group. This small group took me in and gave me support all the way and I have had the privilege to see it grow. And in the 5 years I have been participating I never came across any other group or ‘’answer’’ that considered EVERYTHING. A solution for the human to become educated and self directed to never again be able to be manipulated or deceived by self or others. And solution for earth where we can live in a world were all beings are considered and we live by what is best for all.

Another point about Desteni and the message of Desteni is that no matter what it always comes back to self. I have to make the change. I can test the information for myself.There was nobody I could blame. I could see that I was responsible for MYSELF. And that I had the power to change myself. That there is no higher power going to do it for me or some mighty saviour coming to save us from ourselves. If I wanted to live in a better world I am going to have to participate in the solution to make it happen.

So how do we get people to listen to something they don’t want to hear? How did I listen? I could see for myself it was the real thing. The portal is my sister after all. And I tested self forgiveness and self honesty for myself. If something works it works. No matter how hard I tried to hold on to my ideas and beliefs I could not hide from common sense.

Desteni - It’s like a slap-in-the-face-wakeup-call