Day 88 - Change with Desteni: Leadership through Self Trust

 

My last blog I wrote about how I have developed a from of self trust and became a person confident within certain tasks.

When working with something new where I have no idea what to do or how to do it I go into a point of doubt and uncertainty. Then there is a leaning curve with some mistakes maybe and eventually the task is complete. Then after completing this new thing I then know how to do it which makes it easier the next time. And then eventually it becomes natural and i am confident doing it and have self trust.

Living on a farm with other people is awesome  - so much you can learn about yourself and others. Who do you usually go to when you have a question on how to do something? The best person is somebody who already did it and thus knows how to. And have a look at how you listen to every detail when the person is telling/showing you ho to do this new task. You listen to the person and do what he is telling you so you can do the new task - Authority That is what happened to me. I did allot of tasks on the farm and went through the self doubt, struggle and eventually learned how to do certain tasks for example throwing cement. And thus I became confident and its that confidence and self trust that people see and then they listen. If There is a person who need to then throwing cement and do not know how they are going to ask me. and then after tine they will trust themselves and become confident.

When I say authority I do not mean without question or final say military style authority. Having True Authority is when you have absolute certainty and confidence - and then directing others through common sense and what is best for all. So Authority comes from doing something and understanding it and then directing others - and they will listen because of your self trust and confidence and when others see for themselves that what you showed them works and is true then they will trust you. 

And then with all of this you get leadership. Where others come to you for advice, because you have proven to them that you do indeed know what you are talking about. And then overtime they become leaders - and then they teach others to become leaders and so forth.

So this was my process so far regarding self trust. Before Desteni I was a a silent type go with the flow kind of guy full of self doubt and hopeless uncertainty. And now I am in a position of leadership and developed self trust and confidence and am still building this to become effective within everything do - thanks to Desteni

 

A typical example of how to throw cement...

Day 86 - Change with assistance from Desteni: Self Trust

 

Yesterday i wrote about how I changed regarding work - see here for part 1

IM seeing myself now and then how was before Desteni and allot has changed within me - all for the better. Today i looked back and who I was and I was always the silent type who did not know the meaning of self trust and confidence.

I was a go with flow person - meaning I will never start and argument or disagree with something if it meant I will be challenged. So it was easier for me to not stand out too much. There were allot of other reasons why I was a silent type which i wont be covering in this particular post, I'm going to focus on how I changed from being completely without self trust and a silent push around guy to someone giving direction to others  and showing leadership skills with the help of Desteni tools.

The farm is such a awesome place - you'd never think that a piece of land can teach you so much - with effective guidance form others. So the first things you need to be able to exercise any from of leadership skills is self trust - without it you will never become directive. The problem i found with self trust is that before you can trust yourself you have to proof to yourself that you can indeed trust yourself.

For me it started with the physical farm work - I will be faced with a task that I have no idea how to do it - and because of that i will go into doubt and fear wondering if i will screw this project up. After some research and advice from those that do know we eventually got the job done. Lets say this project was laying a concrete floor slab. Now I can lay a concrete floor slab - I have proven to myself that i am able to do this and thus i can now trust that I can do this.

The same with building with bricks - when I first started i had no idea how to do this and i went into fear and doubt and allot of frustration. But when was done i could then trust myself that I am able to this and thus be confident within doing this. I have built self trust within myself.

And after many projects there is a patter forming - that no matter the project I was able to do it - and some i totally sucked at - but then i know what i am good at and what I am not good at. With simply working in the physical I have developed a point within myself that I did not have before. I also had the perfect environment with people who are dedicated to assist and support each other which made this process of self trust more effective and faster.

That is why it is so important to change our current world system that dictates our environment to a new system that supports everyone. Then we have an effective environment where people can learn to develop themselves> in todays world people do not have time to develop themselves - too busy making ends meet and In an Equal Money System that will no longer be a achievement or something to strife for. Everybody will have and thus will have time to learn about themselves.

 

More tomorrow