My whole life since playing music I always saw myself as unable to sing or rather not very good at it, even though I really liked singing. What I did do is only sing when I am alone by myself where I am the only one who can hear, but I never had the confidence to sing in front of others.
There comes a point in your life where you simply need to say" F**k it! I'm singing and don'’t care who listens". Recently I started working on some cover songs to practice my voice and since really pushing and practicing I have found that I became better at singing to a point where I can say that I am able to sing. So all I needed to do was to practice singing to become better at it. Now, I have been a musician for many years and it never occurred to me that I can actually sing – why is that?
The reason is simple, I carried a self-judgment about my voice and that belief of me not being able to sing is what kept me from developing my singing voice. It is like picking up a guitar for the first time and trying to play it – you are going to be bad at it, It will be silly to then judge yourself as being a bad player that will never be good at playing guitar. It takes dedication and practice to become good at any instrument and your Voice is simply another instrument.
That is something I missed – that my voice is simply another instrument and that I never took the time to practice and develop it to become better at singing. Instead I Judged myself as being bad at it the first time I tried. And thus I allowed a simple self-judgment to keep me from doing something I really like doing.
There so many points within ourselves that we judge. We carry so many self-judgments that are limiting us and keeping us from expanding ourselves. How many self-judgments do you have? Here was an example of one simple self-judgment that affected me for many years so imagine what all your self-judgments are doing to your life. Time to stop them and give them up and Live!
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Yep! I also found that what assists with this is the point of self-acceptance: I accept me, my body, my voice, how I sound. Who am I supposed to please when singing but myself?
ReplyDeleteInstead of judging oneself, one should fully accept oneself, a total self embrace: this is me, this is my voice, and this is all I have and all I have to express myself, enjoy myself and have fun. If I do not do that for myself, no one will and I will have wasted my life judging myself instead of being me. Sure we sometimes sound like shit, the note isn't perfect and even out of pitch - but who fucking cares? Why would one chose to "care" and feel embarrassed and judge oneself, when it is possible to say "fuck it, next time will be better... or not, it doesn't matter - what matters is that I have lived my life and enjoyed myself - and that only I can give myself, and no one can take that away from me. My life is my life, and if a "bad note" has power over me to bring me down, then what kind of life have I lived?
"The biggest man you ever gonna see was once a baby".
I look forward to head those covers!!!