Day 245 The great Gifts ( And Downfalls) Of Being an Introvert - Is Change possible?

   I have been looking over the internet and at the general idea of how people see Introverts. I have defined myself as an introvert and many points I read I can relate to. So today I want to give some perspective on introverts from personal experience, because what I have found in my life is that people do not fully understand the nature of an introvert and this leads to miscommunication and other problems.

Another point I came across is that the people who wrote these post about being introverts have another thing in common – there is the belief that they will never change and always be introverted.
 Or specifically that if you are an introvert – you cannot change it.

This is false, you can change it you should change it in fact, not by becoming an extrovert, but by understanding that even though introversion has its benefits it also has major drawbacks especially in relationships.

So here is a short list of most common traits in Introverts:
1.Being an Observer –
Introverts do not speak much. In social situations I tend to simply observe and be perfectly content with listening rather that actually speaking. This gave me great insight towards people in general – My eyes trained well over the years so I can pick up on small things in people, like moods for example. Also became a very good listener. Unfortunately the drawback of this is unable to communicate effectively in a group.
2. Don’t see the point in small talk
I always disliked this part – small talk. For example talking about the weather, “ it’s a cold day today” – yes I know that thanks, I can feel it just fine. It is not that I dislike talking; I would have no problem talking about something I enjoy, but never saw the point in small talk and mostly think it’s a waste of time. When I do talk I use only the words necessary to convey what I would like to say.

I also tend to not respond immediately, I choose my words carefully before I speak which might seems strange to some people when they ask me something and there is a silence.

This also falls in with being an observer and the drawback here is not developing effective communication. I now find it very hard to express exactly how I feel with words and sometimes I cannot find the words right away and need to really look deep. Writing is fine, because it gives me time to look.
3.Enjoy being alone
I always liked being alone and spending time with myself. It does not mean I always want to be alone, simply that I enjoy spending time with myself. I am comfortable with being by myself which is a cool thing. The only problem here is that when I am in social situations for too long I want to get away and be by myself again.
 
4.Dislike conflict
Yes. Most people have an issue with conflict and would like to avoid it, introverts more so, Because dealing with conflict means dealing with very forward kind if aggressive people which is something introvert really do not like. The reason for this is because of the lack of communication skills. Imagine a person being angry and starts shouting at you demanding things right now – and being an introvert needing time to look for words dealing with a person who simply spits out words – not a match there.

So what I will do on my next post is go onto more detail and show why it’s beneficial being an introvert and a curse and how to change the cursed parts and keep all that is good to become a more effective human being.


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Being Humane is being Evil

 

Definition of the word Humane: 1. Characterized by kindness, mercy, or compassion.

First thing to notice about the word is that it is the word human. When people want you to be kind they will often ask " Where is your humanity!". The thing is that human nature is absolute evil.

We humans are the definition of evil. All you have to do is turn on the news and see the horrible things we do to each other. Look at how we treat other species and nature. Look at how we are are destroying the earth beyond repair. Look at history - the wars - the holy crusade even, it all shows us clearly what and who we are as humans - it is all we have ever done. So to be humane is to be human is to be evil.

The definition for the word Humane is wrong - it is inaccurate. Before we can define it as being kind or compassionate we must prove that we as humans can be compassionate and kind towards others and ourselves, but at the moment we are not there.

We should instead change our very nature by letting go of our humanity  - which means to stop being human, to stop being evil and and stop abusing others and the earth. Now, there are some freaks of nature - and by that i mean some people who actually care about others and the earth and do what they are able to make the world a better place - they let go of their humanity.

So the key here is to stop being humane and instead to develop into an effective living being that considers all actions taken to insure that it is what is best for all. When we start changing our ways and actually care about nature and each other where we in fact change who we are as humans - maybe then the word humane can be defined as being kind and compassionate or even better: to do what is best for all.

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