Day 295: Day How Self-Judgement Of Singing Limits Your Life

 

My whole life since playing music I always saw myself as unable to sing or rather not very good at it, even though I really liked singing. What I did do is only sing when I am alone by myself where I am the only one who can hear, but I never had the confidence to sing in front of others.

There comes a point in your life where you simply need to say" F**k it! I'm singing and don'’t care who listens". Recently I started working on some cover songs to practice my voice and since really pushing and practicing I have found that I became better at singing to a point where I can say that I am able to sing. So all I needed to do was to practice singing to become better at it. Now, I have been a musician for many years and it never occurred to me that I can actually sing – why is that?

The reason is simple, I carried a self-judgment about my voice and that belief of me not being able to sing is what kept me from developing my singing voice. It is like picking up a guitar for the first time and trying to play it – you are going to be bad at it, It will be silly to then judge yourself as being a bad player that will never be good at playing guitar. It takes dedication and practice to become good at any instrument and your Voice is simply another instrument.

That is something I missed – that my voice is simply another instrument and that I never took the time to practice and develop it to become better at singing. Instead I Judged myself as being bad at it the first time I tried. And thus I allowed a simple self-judgment to keep me from doing something I really like doing.

There so many points within ourselves that we judge. We carry so many self-judgments that are limiting us and keeping us from expanding ourselves. How many self-judgments do you have? Here was an example of one simple self-judgment that affected me for many years so imagine what all your self-judgments are doing to your life. Time to stop them and give them up and Live!

 

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Day 294: #HoldACokeWithYourBoobsChallenge is now a thing

The Internet did it again.The  #HoldACokeWithYourBoobsChallenge is going viral. Woman taking selfies holding a can or bottle of coke with nothing but their boobs is apparently a bid to raise awareness of breast cancer. The irony here is quite thick, because those who had breast cancer and mastectomies will never be able to hold anything up.

 Showing your Boobs and how much of it you have and your ability to hold up a can of coke is more like a slap in the face to those who had a mastectomy. Not to mention that coke itself is not a very healthy drink…

The reason this is getting so much attention is simple, very few men would not want to see a woman showing off her breasts. It’s the height of narcissism to post half-naked selfies for their own sake but it’s also pretty duplicitous to claim you’re doing it for a valiant reason.

Even the Breast cancer foundation had this in response: 

“Breast Cancer Research Foundation does not support this campaign and we do not plan on accepting any donations from this campaign. Breast cancer is a serious global health issue that impacts millions of women and men around the world and we believe that breast cancer should not be trivialized.”

There is no problem with raising awareness for a cause or to help a cause, but the Boob challenge is not the way. Rather do something that will actually help. Many woman do not know how to check for lumps that could be a sign that’s its cancer. Instead of putting a coke between your breasts a better option would be to do an educational video on how to check for lumps or something like that. Unfortunately even that will become more about the sexual part ( BOOBS) than the actual educational part, but still would be better than what is currently going on.

To sum up – if you are going to do something for a cause make sure it will actually benefit and help the cause. The #HoldACokeWithYourBoobsChallenge is not helping anything, only narcissism…